2. Changing How The Game Is Played

We live in this world according to the rules in our heads, these mental glasses colored by ideas. It affects how we think, act, feel, and believe. But sometimes we don't agree with how we behave. We wish we made a better decision. Sometimes we don't like a certain feeling that overwhelms us. We hope to change how we respond next time. But we are doomed to fail unless we change the rules. When we change the rules in our heads we change how the game is played. 

Imagine you are in a field. It is night. There are no lights around. You look around and cannot see anything. It is pitch black but you need to find your way home. You don't know what to do. Fear and helplessness grips you. You look up and notice the stars and moon. Suddenly, you realize something. You can use the stars to navigate. You can find your way home. What changed in this situation that allowed you to get home? It was still night and pitch black. The stars were always there. What was different? The ideas in your head. And when those ideas changed after seeing the stars you found an opportunity to get home.